So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God
When I think about what I can do for my husband on a special occasion I immediately rule out things I know he wouldn't like: no matter how much I might want to do it or get it. I have learned the hard way in this discovery. I have gotten him a watch, he never wears it. I have gotten him a men's chain bracelet, he never wears. Until, I learned he doesn't like to wear anything on his hands. He has sensitive skin. So now knowing this about him, even though I might like a man's leather watch for him, it won't please him and it won't please me to see it hidden somewhere never to be seen again.
So as with the Lord. There are things that please Him and there are behaviors and actions that don't.
Here are just a few mentioned in Colossians.
But now you yourselves are to put off all these:
anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth.
Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds
Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth
:fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry
Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness,
idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies,envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
Maybe you don't struggle with these things directly. But what about an unkind word, unkind tone of voice, a sarcastic comment? Yes these things don't please the Lord either.
No matter how I try to do well. I do fail at times. But it's not an ultimate failure. It's just those moments I wish I hadn't given into.
We all have struggles
Paul was vulnerable in this area too. He says in Romans 7
For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice
But here is his resolve.
Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before Phil 3:13
Therefore we make it our aim, whether present or absent, to be well pleasing to Him 2 Cor 5:9
Keep going forward. Yes, we do walk in the flesh. Yes, we do fail yet that shouldn't be the majority of our lives. Keep walking. Keep being filled with the Holy Spirit, and keep going.
Just keep your heart thinking about what pleases and doesn't please him.
The enemy wants us to get discouraged and ultimately give up. Don't.
We all make mistakes. Just correct your course to the heart of Christ.
Jesus was the only perfect one ever and His mo is:
And He who sent Me is with Me. The Father has not left Me alone, for I always do those things that please Him.
Although I will never be able to say this statement, I can say, I always try to do those thing that Please Him. He knows our hearts. He loves us. Hang in there and keep going forward.